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“A common theme in these user-submitted signs is that the women don’t need feminism because they believe in living traditionally. Some specifically state that they are stay-at-home moms. One woman does not need feminism because she likes to cook for her family. On its surface, it’s pretty easy to understand where they’re coming from—you don’t hear a lot about feminists fighting for a woman’s right to cook for her family. But that’s because the option to cook for your family was always on the table (so to speak). Our feminist predecessors had that option, and they wanted more options—like to have job opportunities and to vote. You don’t give up one right when you gain another. The option to be a stay-at-home mom has always been there (if you can afford to live on one income and so forth). You’ve heard about suffragettes fighting for the right to vote because it was a big deal. You haven’t heard about suffragettes fighting for the right to be stay-at-home mothers, not because it’s frowned upon but because there wasn’t a need to vocalize support for the status quo. If someone tells you “your only meal option is beans,” you don’t need to stand up and demand beans. The beans are right there, beaning around in front of you.
However, if you want to talk about a group that has historically voiced support for families, and specifically mothers, of all types—including, yes, stay-at-home moms—we must, I’m sorry to say, talk about feminists. Here’s an incomplete list of mother or family-related issues that feminists have fought for: maternity leave, incarcerated women’s right to give birth without being in shackles, and basic rights for domestic workers. Women Against Feminism would point out that feminists don’t work toward the same rights for men, so what gives? Feminists do actually work toward things like paid paternity leave, for one thing. But similar to the point made by my incredibly insightful bean metaphor, men already, uh, have a lot of rights. That’s why you don’t hear about feminists pursuing them. Maybe if feminists do eventually start fighting harder for the rights of men, there could be a highly paid male executive, or hell, even a male president!”
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Being polyamerous is not more progressive/queer than being monogamous.
Being monogamous is not more loving/committed than being polyamorous.
Both are equally awesome choices that you can make.
Neither is better or worse than the other, although one may be better for an individual (for instance, being mono works much better for me).
This is very, very important.
This. All healthy relationships are countercultural, and hard work.
THIS! My partner and I were poly for most of our relationship. Now that we have switched over to monogamy, a lot of friends seem to think that I think less of them/. Or that I feel we are better/more committed? Like, nah, I love both set-ups, but this makes us the happiest right now :]
Little first years falling off from the boat on their way to the castle. The giant squid rescuing them. The giant squid being concerned for the students after so many years of first years falling in the lake that it always swims under the boats just in case someone falls. The giant squid bringing seaweeds for sad students on the lake shore.